The Enemies Of Marriage: How To Protect And Strengthen Your Relationship
Marriage is a sacred and special institution. It is a deep commitment between two people, destined to last a lifetime. However, many couples face challenges that threaten the solidity of their union. These challenges, which we can call the "enemies of marriage," can undermine the relationship if they are not identified and dealt with. In this blog, we will explore some of these enemies with a Christian counseling perspective.
1. Lack of Communication: The Silent Trap
The apostle Paul teaches in Ephesians 4:26: "Do not sin in your anger. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry." This passage highlights the importance of resolving conflicts and not letting them go unresolved. Lack of communication is a common enemy of marriage. When couples don't talk openly about their feelings, concerns and desires, resentment can build up, leading to estrangement.
Christian tip: Following the principle of Ephesians 4:32, which encourages us to be "kind and compassionate to one another", can help create a more open and loving communication environment in marriage.
2. Lack of Quality Time: The Enemy of Neglect
Modern life is hectic, and we often neglect quality time with our spouses in favor of commitments and responsibilities. When couples stop spending quality time together, their marriage can suffer.
Christian tip: Remember that marriage is a gift from God. Make time for your spouse by praying together, reading the Bible as a couple and taking part in activities that strengthen your relationship and your faith.
3. Lack of forgiveness: The Weight of Bitterness
The Bible teaches us to forgive, as in Colossians 3:13: "Bear with one another and forgive one another their grievances. Forgive as the Lord has forgiven you." A lack of forgiveness can erode a marriage and create a barrier between spouses.
Christian Tip: Remember that just as God has forgiven us, we must also forgive each other. Forgiveness is a choice and an act of love that restores peace to a marriage.
4. Third Parties: External Enemies
Third parties or outside influences can become enemies of the marriage. This can include friends, family or even time-consuming activities that keep the couple apart.
Christian Tip: Prioritize your marriage and set healthy boundaries with outside influences. Remember that your marriage is a God-given priority.
The enemies of marriage can manifest themselves in many ways, but with commitment and proper guidance, you can overcome them. Faith and communion with God can be valuable resources for strengthening your marriage. Remember that, as a couple, you are a team, and together you can overcome any enemy that arises.
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